Becoming a parent is a monumental event, and for many new mums and dads, the first year can feel like an overwhelming whirlwind of joy, sleep deprivation, and a steady stream of questions. From “Is this normal?” to “How do I get them to sleep?”, new parents often turn to the internet for guidance. If you’re in the thick of it, you’re not alone. To help you navigate those early months, here are some of the most Googled questions from parents in the first year, with straightforward, relatable answers.
1. How do I know if my baby is getting enough milk?
One of the most common worries for new parents is whether their baby is feeding properly, especially if you’re breastfeeding. While every baby is different, there are a few signs to look for:
- Your baby should be feeding at least 8-12 times in 24 hours.
- A healthy baby will be gaining weight steadily, usually between 150-200 grams per week in the first few months.
- Wet and dirty nappies are a good indicator – expect 6-8 wet nappies and 2-5 dirty ones a day (more if you’re breastfeeding).
If you’re concerned, don’t hesitate to speak to your health visitor or a lactation consultant. You’re doing great, and they’re there to support you.
2. Why won’t my baby sleep through the night?
First things first: it’s completely normal for babies not to sleep through the night, especially in their first few months. Newborns have tiny tummies, which means they need to feed regularly – often every 2-4 hours. Plus, their sleep cycles are different from ours, and they tend to wake up more frequently.
As they get older, around 4-6 months, they may start to sleep for longer stretches, but don’t expect uninterrupted sleep just yet! It’s also a good idea to establish a bedtime routine that’s calm and consistent. Think bath, bottle, cuddle, and then bed. This helps signal to your baby that it’s time to sleep.
3. When should I start tummy time, and how do I do it?
Tummy time is essential for your baby’s development as it helps strengthen their neck, back, and shoulder muscles, preparing them for milestones like rolling over and sitting up. You can start tummy time as early as day one, but always be sure your baby is awake and supervised. Start with short periods, around 1-2 minutes, and gradually increase as they get used to it.
Place your baby on a soft but firm surface (like a playmat) and use toys or your face to engage them. It may seem like a small thing, but it has a big impact on their physical development.
4. How can I soothe my baby when they’re crying?
Crying is a baby’s main way of communicating, so it can be challenging when you can’t figure out what’s wrong. Common reasons include hunger, a dirty nappy, tiredness, or simply wanting comfort. The “5 S’s” is a well-known method for calming a fussy baby:
- Swaddle them snugly in a blanket (but not too tightly).
- Side or stomach position (holding your baby on their side or stomach while comforting them, but only do this while they’re awake).
- Shush gently to mimic the sounds they heard in the womb.
- Swing or gently rock your baby to calm them.
- Suck – offering a pacifier can sometimes help soothe them.
Sometimes babies just need to cry to release pent-up tension, and that’s perfectly normal. If nothing seems to work and your baby’s crying is persistent or extreme, it’s always worth checking with your GP for peace of mind.
5. What should I do if my baby has a fever?
It’s nerve-wracking when your baby isn’t feeling well, especially if they have a fever. A mild fever (above 38°C) is often just the body’s natural response to fighting off infections. If your baby is under three months old and has a fever of 38°C or higher, you should contact a healthcare professional immediately. For older babies, you can treat a mild fever by:
- Keeping them cool, but not too cold.
- Offering plenty of fluids to stay hydrated.
- Giving appropriate doses of infant paracetamol or ibuprofen (check with your pharmacist or GP for the correct dosage).
- Keeping an eye on their behaviour. If they seem unusually lethargic or are having trouble breathing, seek medical attention.
If you’re in doubt, don’t hesitate to contact your GP or NHS 111. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
6. When will my baby start teething?
Teething is another one of those milestones that varies from baby to baby. While some babies start teething as early as 4 months, others don’t get their first tooth until closer to 12 months. Symptoms of teething can include drooling, chewing on their hands, fussiness, and disrupted sleep. To help soothe their sore gums:
- Gently rub their gums with a clean finger.
- Offer a teething ring (chilled, not frozen, to avoid damaging their gums).
- Use over-the-counter teething gels or powders (but always check with your pharmacist first).
If you’re concerned about severe discomfort or fever, it’s always a good idea to speak to your health visitor.
7. How do I introduce solid foods to my baby?
Around 6 months, your baby is ready to start solid foods. Signs that they’re ready include:
- Sitting up with minimal support.
- Showing interest in food (like reaching for your plate).
- Losing the tongue-thrust reflex (they stop pushing food out of their mouths).
Start with single-ingredient purees like baby rice, vegetables, or fruits, and gradually introduce new foods to watch for any allergies. Remember, it’s all about introducing new tastes and textures, so don’t stress if your baby doesn’t seem too interested at first.
It’s also important to keep offering breast milk or formula as their main source of nutrition until they’re about 12 months old.
8. When should I start potty training?
Potty training is one of those milestones that can feel like it’s ages away, but it’s worth thinking about in advance. The average age for potty training in the UK is around 2-3 years, but every child is different. Look for signs that your toddler is ready, such as:
- Showing interest in using the toilet.
- Keeping their nappy dry for longer periods.
- Understanding simple instructions.
Don’t rush it. Positive reinforcement and patience are key! It’s not about when they’re ‘ready’ in terms of age, but when they’re physically and emotionally ready.
The first year of parenting is a time filled with questions, but it’s also a time of incredible learning and growth – for both you and your baby. If you’re ever unsure, remember that it’s okay to ask for help, whether that’s from a healthcare professional, family member, or fellow parent. The most important thing is to trust yourself, go with the flow, and remember that every baby develops at their own pace. You’re doing an amazing job!
